This is literally a woman thing and honestly, it's the only acceptable form of a woman for me.
So far I've found that taking portraits and making them with darktable and gimp is really enjoyable and meaningful. I've been secretly arranging and organizing these outfits for a while now.
I'm actually very strict about clothing, extremely comfortable and
high-performance fabrics that must resist washing (Arc’teryx)
or extremely aesthetically pleasing designs that are not suitable for everyday wear (Lolita brands
https://deep-swarm.xyz/toolkit/posts/2023-12-29-lolita-consumption.html).
It takes a reason and a specific natural atmosphere to wear a Lolita outfit. This is in contrast to what is perceived as a very unnatural form of
confidence in this kind of special clothing, which they like to say with embarrassment:
I wear my clothes just for me. But the deeper reality is that, clothing is not
just for oneself (being stared, watched and perceived), it's an interaction with the environment and
space, and it has nothing to do with a more kitschy
cultural identity either.
I'm not at all interested in the Lolita community (especially the kind that likes to gather together). Being stared at is also pretty embarrassing, I avoid wearing it in front of people, and I don't want to reveal that to anyone I don't approve of, so I should enjoy wearing it in front of my friends.